To my beautiful daughters, beloved college girls, and every
other person longing for a “significant
other”…
Recently someone told me I was lucky to have found Chris, such an amazing, godly, loving husband
and daddy. Well, let me tell you, yes I am indeed blessed to have him, but luck
had nothing to do with it.
You see in order to have this amazing guy as my husband, I
had to be ready when he came along. I was not occupying my time with the wrong
person. I stopped believing the lie that in order to be considered valuable I
needed to have a boyfriend. My sense of
security and identity didn’t rest in someone else. Instead, I figured out who I
am without a significant other; I found my identity in Christ. And it was
beautiful. I stopped looking for a boyfriend and instead started looking for
loyal friends and companions. The way to find loyal and great friends is to be
one. Our society has it all wrong: we don’t have to seek a boyfriend, we just have to be a great friend! A relationship shouldn’t start off as boyfriend
and girlfriend. Trust me, I’m a relationship expert (see profession and
degrees). ;) So my beloved, beautiful darlings, please stop looking for a
boyfriend, stop believing the lies that you need to have a boyfriend in order
to be considered valuable, find out who you
are, find your identity in Christ, be satisfied in your relationship with Him, and
see yourself as He does. He sees you as beautiful. And so do I. So will your
great friend that might someday become your best friend and maybe even your
husband.
